1: The 2 o'clock cylinder head nut is seeping oil, or coolant right out of the nut. Cause? Fix? Normal?
Yeah, it's most likely a head gasket.
2: There are two upper shock mount holes. Mine is in the rear. I would think the rear hole makes a stiffer ride? If i moved the upper shock bolt to the front hole, I'd get a more smoother ride in the rear?
I'd like to see a pic of what your looking at.