You probably don't need a complete donor frame to get that extra tubing from, especially if all you need is a short piece.
If you don't have a local source for chromoly, Aircraft Spruce (
www.aircraftspruce.com) is a great source for 4130 tubing, and they can ship you what you need.
I'm not sure what wall thickness is the most common for dirt bike frames. I'm used to off-road trucks where .120-wall tubing is practically standard-issue. I'd guess a lot of motorcycle frames are built using .065-wall or .083.
Mild steel TIG rod or MIG wire should work fine. Most high-end off-road trucks are built using chromoly tubing and mild steel filler rod. These same trucks typically do not get heat treated after welding.
For the "dent" you need put in your frame, you might be able to get away with heating up the area and knocking the dent in with a hammer. If that doesn't seem right, you can have a "cove" cut into the frame and then plate the area back in with either flat plate or a piece of round tubing cut in half down the middle...if that makes sense.
Can you post some pics of the area in question?